A Human feels: “I’ve been feeling incredibly lonely lately, and it hurts so much. A few days ago, I found myself crying to sleep because all I wanted was a hug, just to feel loved.”

Anmol Responds: I hear you and can understand the feeling of loneliness, which is much more than simply being alone. Yes, it hurts very much, and when it happens, all that one needs is to feel loved... to feel belonged... to feel accepted... to feel acknowledged... to be hugged and embraced in the warmth of the people they feel close to. In these times, one does not need a grand gesture of love from the expected ones, but just a sincere one would do the work. Just the presence can help one to feel comfortable and ease the pain of loneliness.

This is a human feeling, and every human at any age can experience it. And in this phase, crying is bliss. The people who could cry their hearts out should see crying as bliss because there are many who just can’t help themselves to feel what they are feeling, which makes them more vulnerable later. Yes, they may seem strong from the outside, but the reality is they are just afraid to face their own emotions, and that is not helpful at all. So never be afraid to cry; never feel like crying is weakness. It's bliss to those who understand the lightness felt after it.

Every human deserves to be loved and cared for. I empathize with the human who is feeling lonely, and I am sure all the readers could feel and relate to this feeling. It is very normal to feel lonely and want to be hugged and loved.

A human feels loneliness when their relationship needs are not fulfilled for any reason. This could reflect that the relationship isn’t going as smoothly as it was expected to be. There is something going on that has created a gap which is making one feel emotionally distant from their close people. One can help oneself by understanding one’s feelings and emotions around it. Think about the things that one wanted to express, the needs that were not fulfilled, the expectations that remain unmet. All these things are really important, and understanding them will be very helpful in knowing and making an informed decision about the potential path to choose which helps the person.

When the feeling of loneliness is persistent, one can also seek professional help like counseling sessions. A talk with a Counselor, like me, can help one to understand and process one's feelings and emotions, understand one's relationship needs, and find ways to better their relationship with themselves and others, eventually not just helping themselves but helping their relationship to be stronger

The feeling of loneliness is an uneasy feeling that not everyone is comfortable sharing that they are feeling lonely. And it could be there even when having a loving family, supporting friends, loving spouse, and loving kids, one may still feel lonely as it is very natural to feel. Expressing the feeling will help one to understand where it is coming from, and when that happens, one would be able to acknowledge it and work on it for the betterment.

“Express nahi karoge toh Address kese karoge?”

Translation: “If you don’t Express, then how would you Address?”

We all must express our feelings whenever we feel lonely. We must share our feelings with our close people as they are the ones who deserve to be told. They are the people who can support us, and help us, and they will feel considered when we share what one is going through with their close people.

Remember, expressing your uneasiness is not a sign of weakness; it’s a testament to your strength and resilience. So take that first step, and know that you are not alone in this journey, Anmol feels with you. #ExpressUneasiness

With Empathy and Understanding,

Ambidextrous Anmol, a Psychology Professional Propelled by Passion, Positivity, and Purpose 💙