I hear you, and I can understand how heavy this uneasiness feels. It shows up in the sleepless nights spent staring at the ceiling, the constant tightness in your chest, or the exhaustion that coffee can’t fix. It is found in the doom-scrolling and re-reading of old messages, trying to find where it all went wrong. It is the mental loop that keeps you awake when you deserve to be resting.

Because love is the emotion that sustains us, and being cheated on makes us feel unloved or unwanted, undermining the very foundation of our being.

I appreciate you coming forward and expressing this uneasiness.

Please take a deep breath. Your pain is valid, and the uneasiness you are feeling deserves to be set down gently.

The Fracture of Self

When someone breaks your trust, the first thing that fractures is not the relationship — it is your sense of self.

Our heart is not a device that can just simply delete memories.

• It remembers.
• It stores.
• It bruises.
• And bruises take time to fade.

Why We Blame Ourselves

When trust is broken repeatedly, it is natural to ask, “What is lacking in me?”

As a Psychologist, I have come to understand that the way others treat you is often a reflection of their own internal struggles, not a measure of your worth.

People who cheat or manipulate often do so because of their own inner deficits, their own inability to hold the weight of a genuine connection.

A Self-Forgiveness Ritual

Consider this conversation with yourself. Place your hand on your heart and whisper...

“Dear Myself,

I forgive you for thinking you were the problem.

I am sorry I made you carry the shame of someone else’s actions.

My worth is not a fluctuating currency based on who chooses me.

Dear self, can you forgive me... for carrying the burden of their actions as if it were my flaw...”

Let that sit with you for a few breaths.

You deserve a love that doesn’t cheat you, doesn’t confuse you, doesn’t make you question your existence.

And before that love arrives, you deserve to rest...

To soften the walls around your heart,

so you can love — and be loved — fully again.

Whenever you’re ready to talk about it further, I am just one Hi away.

With empathy and understanding,

Counseling Psychologist,

Ambidextrous Anmol

Did you feel heard?

I’d love to know how this post made you feel – and if there’s something I could do better, please let me know.

I’m curious to understand what connected with you, and what you’re taking away from it.