A Human Feels: “Whenever I cry to sleep, I wonder, will this ever come to an end? Will I ever find someone whom I can hug, so that I can sleep peacefully?”

I hear you, and I want you to know that you are not alone in experiencing these emotions. Those late-night tears speak volumes about a deep yearning for connection, for that longing hug that offers comfort and security.

And while you still wait for that comforting hug, your tears are companions to the long, lonely night. It is natural to ask when this will get over, and when there will be a person with whom you can reside all your fears, hesitations, discomforts, insecurities, and all that comes in your way of experiencing peace.

Yes, your feelings are valid, and you deserve to find the comfort and connection you seek. However, the journey towards that would be the most difficult one, as it is not only about finding that someone but also about being deserving of that someone. It will take time, patience, and courage, but rest assured, as you are worthy of love and belonging. Believe it now or later. 💙

We all want to be with someone with whom we can share our true selves, someone who accepts us as we are, who can have patience when we are struggling with our internal chaos, and who provides us a sense of security, a sense of calm... And for all those things, we look for someone to come into our lives.

The reality is that to have someone like that, you need to be something like that yourself. This simply means all the things you’re looking for outside are the things that you need to develop inside of you because if you don’t develop those things and you find that someone, you would be helplessly dependent, and that’s not good for either of you.

So what do you do?

You start working on developing all the things you seek outside so that when that someone comes you are ready for it.

Keep expressing yourself, dear human, as:

“Express nahi karoge toh Address kese karoge?”

Translation: “If you don’t Express, then how would you Address?”

Also, expressing yourself to your close people would be a step towards finding support and belonging and that may open the way towards that someone.

I wish you all the very best in your journey, and if you ever feel overwhelmed by these emotions, please remember that support is available. Whether it’s reaching out to your close person or seeking a professional like me, there are people who care about you and want to help you navigate through these things as fellow humans.

With empathy and understanding,

Ambidextrous Anmol, a Psychology Professional Propelled by Passion, Positivity, and Purpose 😇